By the time most couples get to marriage counseling they are already emotionally divorced. This means the only thing keeping them together is the kids, the house, money or other outside factors, not the enduring and lasting love they were looking for when they first got married. If you answered yes on more than four of these questions, you should consider outside help for your marriage.
SYMPTOMS OF EMOTIONAL DIVORCE:
Little or no eye contact
Lack of sharing on a personal level- surface conversation only
Lack of checking in with each other on a daily basis
Conversations begin harshly
Conversations begin with criticism
Lack of humor in daily interactions
Lack of interest in each others interests
Living separate lives in the same house (sleeping, eating)
Lack of awareness of each others dreams, hopes or personal goals
Apathy about the other persons emotional state
Daydreaming about separate lives
Making decisions about major purchases on your own
No fun in downtimes; Fun times are separate from each other
Have a hard time thinking positively about spouse.
Very few positive recent memories with spouse.
Shutdown at the sound of spouse’s voice.
Past memories of spouse seem more like manipulation now.
Body has a visible reaction when in spouse’s space.
Struggle feeling safe having sex with spouse.
I can’t imagine forgiving my spouse. want my spouse to pay for what they’ve done.